Explaining use to wife

[Guest]

I have always enjoyed anal stimulation and would like to purchase this device but I don't know how to explain this to my wife of 41 years. I am not gay and have no desire to have any sexual activity with another man but I really enjoy anal stimulation. In our earlier years of marriage we did some experimenting with anal stimulation on each other but my wife shows no interest now. I think the medical benefits of using this are a hard sell, even for me, and it will be seen as more of a self stimulation activity and she will think I'm showing a homosexual tendancy that I have hidden from her all of these years. I would be interested in hearing from any of you who have gone through this and how you handeled it.

[thedoc]

Many years ago I was in a similar situation but worse. My wife had never even allowed me to touch her bum nor was she willing to touch mine. I longed to have her stimulate my prostate but knew she wouldn't unless there was a medical need. Fortunately, my wife had noticed on her own that my ejaculation wasn't as large as it had been.
I knew the only way she would even think of massage would be if I needed it medically. In desperation, I faked several orgasms then announced I was going to go to the doctor because I felt I had a prostate infection. She said she was gong to go with me. Before the appointment I firmly massaged my own prostate. When the doctor examined me he stated the one side of the prostate was slightly swollen and that prostae infections were hard to overcome. He didn't mention prostate massage so neither did I. I was concerned he wouldn't approve and that would be the end of the opportunity. He gave me a perscription which I faithfuly took in my wife's presence but I let her know I wasn't any better many times. After several weeks I presented several articles on prostate massage and asked if she would try to give me some relief. It worked. Because there was a medical basis for the procedure she willing massaged me. While she didn't like doing it, I praised and thanked her for doing it and told her I felt much better afterwards, which I did. After several months she was so used to doing it for me that it was no longer a big deal for her. In fact, on days when she doesn't feel like sex she asks if she can just massage me instead. Of course, I willingly agree.