A question about dildos - does anybody use them for prostate massage? The reason I ask is that I have had moderate erectile dysfunction for several years - I'm 56 - and have been searching for a non-medicinal, natural technique that might help me improve my ability to have ejaculations (which have become more difficult to achieve while masturbating) and also keep my prostate healthy. It would also be nice if this technique involved my wife in some way because our sex life has come to a stop. Three different medications, starting with Viagra, haven't worked.
I've been pretty reluctant to suggest anything because of what she might think - that is, if I asked her to start penetrating me with a dildo, it might give her the impression that I was looking to bring some sort of gay thing into our lives. Not only that, I have no idea if this sort of role reversal would be uncomfortable for her to participate in - and I guess we'd need a second dildo or something for her.
To make things more complicated, the idea of having this done to me does have some sexual appeal. I'm basically straight and all, but the year before I met my wife (over 20 years ago), I had a short romantic relationship with a guy - though not so short that I didn't experience the benefits/pleasure of having the head of a penis massage my prostate on more than one occasion. Meanwhile, I've never entirely put these desires aside, and gay thoughts do come up now and again. I'm not sure how using a dildo would play out in our lovemaking, whether or not it would fan my bisexual flames or cause me act how gay fantasy things in our lovemaking or what, but there are some exceptionally realistic models on the market that I'm sure would replicate the prostate massage experience and perhaps benefit me greatly. Anyway, I would appreciate any input any of you might have on this. Thanks.